There has been a trend of exceptionally “beautiful” women being the main reason for the downfall of their once-happy marriages.
It’s fairly abnormal for women to watch YouTube videos that are geared toward men; and no, I’m not talking about videos about cars or motor vehicles (I hope you enjoyed the pun). I will admit: I love watching the videos with J. where the “beautiful” women will bawl their eyes out making themselves out to be the victims while blaming their ex-husbands when actually, they were the culprits of the toxicity in their marriages. You probably know what videos I’m talking about. If my girl friends know that I take joy in laughing at these women’s karma, they’d probably disown me.
However, one can always learn everything from anything and anything from everything. I learned what NOT to do in my marriage to J. All of these videos may have somewhat same stories and plots, but one thing that they all have in common is, “that look.”
What exactly is “that look?”
It’s simple. These women spend hundreds, if not thousands, of dollars on frivolous beauty treatments that are not vital for survival.
- Super-duper long, fake eyelash treatment
- Over-the-top manicures; the longer, the more problematic
- Overly-inflated lips due to lip injection/hyaluronic injections
- Over-the-top cosmetic surgical procedure (e.g., butt implants)
- *OPTIONAL* Spray tan that is 1-2 shades darker than their natural skin color
is “this look” synonymous with toxicity?
Although there is no official scientific study proving that “this look” brings nothing but woe into marriages,my common sense begs to differ. My take on this is simple: Yes, “this look” is synonymous with toxicity.
money funding self-indulgence selfishly
There’s really nothing more to say when it comes to why spending thousands of dollars every month for frivolous “beauty” is a common practice by self-absorbed women. There’s one thing to fill up your cup by performing self-love by self-indulging every now and then. However, self indulgence should not come at the physical and figurative expense of the family. Money is not the whole world, but it can fund a child’s whole world. That money used for on fake nails costs at least $100.00, not including tip. The money used for installing fake eyelashes costs more than $200.00, and so on. Adding up all of those expenses could easily instead be invested into a child’s college fund, trust fund, new bike, extracurricular, and much more. If a mother knowing this still chooses to fund her frivolous, non-functional beauty fads continuously over the happiness and growth of her children, then she is a monster. It’s like in the original Teen Mom when Macy’s boyfriend chose to spend hundreds of dollars to get a huge tattoo of his son’s name on the whole span of his rib cage.
the magical powers of toxicity…transform!
It’s like a Sailor Moon transformation, but for the worst. The minute they start putting on the lashes, fake nails, and injecting lip fillers
they turn into entitled divas. They used to be sweet and kind, but then something happens when they start to add each vanity item piece-by-piece.
It all started when the lower socioeconomic class started this trend. Where they got the influence to even add windshield wipers on their eyelashes, inflate their lips to look like Marge Simpson, glue on 3-inch plastic on their nails that make everything they touch into bio-hazard boggles my mind. But then again, it’s like The Flood from Halo; nobody knows the origin of their mutation. But now, the contagion has reached women of all socioeconomic classes, including very wealthy housewives (e.g., The Housewives of Atlanta, Beverly Hills, and etc.).
I am trying hard to figure out a way to find the correlation of how these contraptions are directly proportional to low-class, hoodlum mentality. I think it may have something to do with overcompensating for their physical insecurities by masking them with garish garb and contraptions. Rather than doing deep soul-searching or looking to God to learn to love and appreciate their physical attributes, they turn to material goods, which are a quick way of fixing the problem temporarily.
And, it has been witnessed that the lower income tax bracket put material possession above all else in life because they believe it will elevate their status amongst peers. They choose to be a slave to others’ opinions instead of living to serve the Lord.
How does this make them toxic though?
They choose themselves first over their children and God. With a mentality of putting themself before anyone else, even their own kids, how would they put their husband’s needs before their own? The wife’s role is to serve and submit to her husband and the family while the husband serves his family and loves his wife and children unconditionally.
The actual “beauty” additions are not the actual reasons why these women end up being toxic to their husbands, children, and society. It’s the outcome of their true, self-centered, entitled nature. Their lack of love and respect for themselves is compensated by substituting them with frivolous, material embellishments – that actually look really gaudy and stupid. Instead of appreciating what God gifted them with physically, they shun it.
Hurt people, hurt people
Deep down, they are hurt. Whether it be through childhood trauma, relationship abuse, bullying…they are hurt. Healing from the hurt is not a swift, easy process. The way us ladies heal from the hurt is by arming ourselves; and the best way we arm ourselves is by making ourselves feel good and sexy. It’s not a permanent or healthy solution to healing from deep-set trauma though.
The fact that they don’t take the proper steps to self-reflect on their hurt just makes them unconsciously repeat the cycle to everyone else. That is why they are toxic to their husbands. And, their method of fixing the hurt is through topical fixtures, a.k.a. trashy fashion fads.
